Life has a way of turning upside down when you least expect it. Everything can be travelling along smoothly, then all of a sudden you are hit with the unexpected and find yourself struggling to stay afloat. It happens to all of us from time to time, no matter how good your stress management skills are.
Identifying Stress In Your Life
Sometimes it’s loss of a loved one or serious illness that catch us off guard, or it can be something a little more ongoing and long term building up, such as financial trouble, job satisfaction or relationship stresses. It can be anything really.
Most people don’t think about it until after it happens. Even then, it is often a case of not knowing what support is available, where to go or who to seek advice from. This means the negative emotions and stress can build up and leave us struggling to cope with our everyday life and responsibilities.
As a psychologist, I have seen this first hand in my professional experiences. I think we can all relate to these feelings in our personal lives. For me, I recall the extreme stress I felt when my workplace became somewhere I dreaded. The weight was lifted off my shoulders when I finished up, but for many situations, the solution is not that easy. Especially in the case of loss or illness.
Why Stress Management Is Important
The stuff that we used to be able to brush off suddenly feels like lead weight on our shoulders as we attempt to push through. Each little thing becomes a huge thing and it can become really difficult to see the positives that lie ahead.
In fact, we often end up losing motivation even for the things we would normally love because the stress, grief and emotions are eating us up.
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Signs of Stress and Anxiety
The signs of stress are huge and varied,. They also overlap strongly with the symptoms of depression.
The main thing is a change from the norm for the worse, but you may not even realise most of the signs are there. Sometimes someone else will notice them before you do.
Here are a few of the signs of stress to look for:
- Feeling unusually emotional
- Tired, unable to sleep or sleeping excessively
- Lack of patience
- Unfocused and unable to concentrate
- Changed appetite – increased or decreased
- Lack of interest in activities you normally enjoy
- Dread at the thought of doing certain things i.e. attending work, visiting a certain place
- Arguments with loved ones
- Impulsive behaviour
- Physical tension – tight shoulders, headaches, neck pain
- Dry mouth
Where Can You Go For Help?
Seeking professional support is available to everyone. You don’t need an official diagnosis to seek professional assistance.
It is there for everyone who needs some extra support or tools to help them through a difficult period in life or to work through negative emotions and stress. This is something many people fail to realise.
A great starting point is often your GP. They can provide referrals to more specialised services and also know of options that may best suit your budget.
You can also seek counselling services through local community services or public health care. Here in Australia, there are many free services available, including online and phone counselling providers, which are easy to access. Similar services exist in most other western countries also.
If budget is not a concern, you can make an appointment with a local psychologist or counsellor who offers private services. This can be quite expensive but it means you have greater flexibility with who you see and how often, without the restrictions of public waitlists or limited availability.
In some cases, if you have private health insurance, you may even find that psychology and counselling services are included as part of your policy, either as part of your hospital cover or as an extras component.
Myths About Stress And Anxiety
Seeking professional support is not a sign of weakness. It does not mean you are ‘crazy’ and it can be beneficial for anyone, no matter your situation, your background or your personal reasons.
Stress, anxiety, depression, grief… they are huge, sometimes debilitating experiences that we do not have to live with long term.
Put your wellbeing and the wellbeing of your family as a top priority in your household as happy people are healthy, productive people too!
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What is your number one sign you are stressed? Do you have any great stress management tips?