Goal setting is such an important habit to have, no matter what stage of life you are at! Goals keep us forward focused and are the best way to encourage personal growth, which is why goal setting for kids is equally important as it is for adults!
In my many years of work as a psychologist, goal setting exercises were a recurring theme, no matter if I was working with adults or children. Defining goals is an area I love and it can bring about massive positive change for everyone individual. Personally I am always setting and reviewing goals in my business, my personal life and my relationships.
There is no one size fits all for goals. Each person has different motivations and aspirations. And kids are no different, so find my best tips for helping children to set goals and develop a plan for achieving them with your support.
SMART GOAL SETTING FOR KIDS
The Importance of Goals For Children
Kids benefit from motivation just like adults. Goal setting with kids is such an important way to help them build confidence in their own abilities, boost their self esteem and improve their focus. It also helps to teach them responsibility and independence.
One of the biggest reasons to start goal setting with children early is to teach them accountability. This is not something kids are naturally skilled at early on. It is a skill that needs to be learned over time, so working on goal setting exercises with your child will help them to understand what accountability is and how their actions influence the outcomes that follow.
These skills will support your child in growing their self worth and also encourage them to strive higher, by setting them up with the basic skills they need to achieve the things they want in future. It also reduces the impact of challenges such as shyness and low confidence that many children struggle with as a result of their personality differences.
SMART Goals Method
There is a good chance you may have already heard the term SMART goals before, as this is a goal setting method that works great for all ages. This is the goal setting method I have used in my work as a psychologist and this is a method I use personally, and when goal setting with children or adults. So, what are SMART goals?
By using this method, you ensure your goal meets each of these criteria. This increases your chance of success and helps you to set up a plan for achieving your goal, rather than running on hope alone. As they say, a goal without a plan is just a dream!
SMART Goal Setting Questions
Use these questions to to help you with setting SMART goals for kids with your child. By asking them these different questions, you help them to narrow their focus and also create the steps they need to work towards their goals. This is the part that kids need the most support with when goal setting, as they are still learning about cause and effect.
S – Is it specific? What do you want to happen? What would you like to accomplish?
M – Is it measurable? How will you track your goal? How will you know when you have reached your goal? Who can help you?
A – Is it achievable? Is there anything that could stop you from reaching your goal? Have you set enough time to achieve this? Do you have the skills or tools you need?
R – Is it realistic? Why is this goal important to you? Why do you want to do this?
T – Is it time-bound? When will you complete your goal by? How long will it take you to achieve your goal?
You can use these same goal setting questions to help you set your own SMART goals as well. It is a great habit to get into by ensuring every goal you set meets these 5 criteria!
Tips for Goal Setting With Children
- Allow your child to take the lead – You are not responsible for setting goals for your child! Try to avoid influencing them with what you want them to achieve and instead let them be the ones to identify their goals. We are far more likely to be motivated by a goal we set ourselves than one set by someone achieve, no matter how tempting it is in wanting to lead them there. Be a guide only in helping them identify what they want.
- Write goals down – Writing your goals down increases the chance of achieving them as it makes the goal more concrete. This is the same for children, so have them complete the goal setting exercise by writing down their goals. You can use my free goal setting PDF or if you don’t have access to a printer, have them write it down on a blank piece of paper and decorate it.
- Display their goals – This is such an important step with helping to keep your child motivated towards their goals. Stick it somewhere they will see it frequently, or where as a family you can all see it. It may be on the wall beside their bed, above their desk or somewhere else highly visible to keep them motivated and remind you to check in.
- Set achievable goals – Goal setting is a new skill for children so it is not uncommon for them to set massive goals that may be out of reach at this point in their life, such as becoming a pro footballer or saving 1 million dollars before they are 8. Big dreams are great and we don’t want them to be discouraged so instead of telling them those goals are impossible, ask them to narrow their focus on a smaller goal that could lead them closer to that big goal. It may be making the school football team or saving $50 from chores over the next 6 months. We want to give them confidence and build them up, so we want them to have goals that are in reach while maintaining a positive perspective on their giant, not yet in reach goals.
- Be their biggest cheerleader – Kids thrive on positive reinforcement and encouragement. Praise your child when they take steps towards reaching their goals. This means praising the tiny steps in the beginning and then the bigger ones as they move forward. Check in on their progress and talk through with them if they are feeling doubt. We all need accountability and for children, you are their biggest source of accountability and support.
Free SMART Goal Setting Worksheet
A great way to get started on goal setting with kids is to use a simple goal setting worksheet. I have put together this free goal setting for kids worksheet that you can print off as often as you like. Best of all, this worksheet works just as well for adults or teenagers too, so print some extra copies off for yourself and the rest of the family!
This SMART goal setting worksheet will help your child answer the questions they need to turn their goal into an actionable plan and to simplify their goal setting steps in a way they can understand. This is a great activity to do with your child on a regular basis, whether it be for an academic goal, a savings goal or a skill based goal.
Grab your free goal setting worksheet here.
Other Goal Setting Exercises For Children
There are loads of ways you can get children thinking about goals. One of my favourite exercises aside from using a simple worksheet are to have them create a vision board. You can grab some magazines for them to cut images from or print off photos relating to the things they want to achieve. Vision boards are a really fun activity to do at the start of a new year, however you can do one any time.
They may put inspiration on the grades they want to achieve, or places they want to visit. Savings goals are easily added to vision boards with images of what they are saving for. You can use a pin board or just a sheet of cardboard with images glued on. It can be really simple!
For younger children, try watching one of their favourite shows with them or reading a book they love together and then asking them what they like or admire about their favourite characters. This can be a great way for them to identify habits or personality traits they wish to have, such as being kind to others or being brave.
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Do you and your family set regular goals? I would love to hear what some of your current goals are so make sure you drop a comment below!