Part of simplifying your life is learning how to accept certain things as they are. Acceptance can be challenging for many, especially if we are striving for some sort of ideal or setting our standards higher than necessary, however when we learn to accept, we make peace with certain aspects of our lives.
SIMPLIFY MY LIFE – ACCEPT
We are not all brilliant mathematicians or a wiz in the kitchen. Nor are we always patient with our children or partner, early risers or gym junkies. There are certain things we wish were different about ourselves, our situations and those around us, but there are many things we cannot change – personality traits, circumstances, our history.
Despite being unable to change many aspects of our lives, sometimes we dwell on it and allow it to cause us excess stress and tension anyway.
For example, I’m a mother of an active toddler and a baby. Pregnancy and child birth is tough on the body. Along with the joys, I’ve got a few stretch marks here and there, my stomach isn’t as firm and there are other signs that remind me I’ve carried two children to term. I’ve accepted these changes as part of me now. I clearly won’t have a career as a bikini model and I accept that too. There is no point getting embarrassed or worrying that my body isn’t like it was pre-motherhood. I can’t change it.
Accepting things we can’t change is a powerful thing in creating inner calm and minimising our stress. If we have a chronic illness, we need to learn to adapt to manage it. There is no point denying it to ourselves. If we are introverts, we can learn to accept that too and look at ways to make it work for us. Untidy – that’s okay, accept it and find ways to minimise it’s impact on your life by downsizing your stuff. That’s what I’m doing as I know I’m a terrible housewife.
Acceptance isn’t about learning to love these parts of ourselves and our lives. And it doesn’t mean we never have to change them. It simply means making peace with them, either temporarily or long term, to avoid the continual frustration it causes us by dwelling on it.
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